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Case Study of Rahmathnisha – Thirupathur Jamaat, Sivagangai district

Rahmathnisha is a resident of Thirupathur, Sivagangai district, Tamil Nadu and got married to Varusai Mohamed of Karaikudi of Sivagangai district, Tamil Nadu, on 1989. Her husband is working as an assistant engineer in Tamil Nadu state government Transport corporation in Karaikudi. She has a boy Syed Anwar Ali (Now he is 14 years old). She lived with her husband for 10 years. During her life with her husband she faced lot of tortures from her husband and in-laws family. Her husband had affairs with two other women while he was living with Ramhmathnisha. Rahmathnisha could not tolerate his behaviour and complained his behaviour with her mother in law. But they did not mind her behaviour and asked her to tolerate this behaviour as a regular habit of men who is working in a government department. Rahmathnisha was not allowed to go out of her house and have relationship with the neighbours and relatives. She was almost house arrested and asked to live a slavery life.

One day she happened to see her husband having sex with another women. Then she got agitated and showed her anger with the in-laws family. Then the reaction of her in-laws family was very threatening. They started mixing slow poison and all in the food taken by Rahmathnisha and her son. As a result of this both of them had severe stomach pain and suffered a lot. The harassment continued. As the life of herself and her son was under risk she left her in-laws family without the knowledge of them and returned to her parents house in the year 2000. As Rahmathnisha left her husband’s house, he gave a complaint to Kattuthalai Jamaat as if she has put sleeping dose in the food and stolen jewels from their house . Discussions with Thirupattur Jamaat and Kattuthalai Jamaat took place to find the facts. While she was living in her parents house, in 2001, her husband send a Talaq letter to Thirupattur Jamaat and herself. As Rahmathnisha suspected the nature of letter, she did not receive the letter and returned it. Again the lobbying with both the jamaat took place. During such discussions Rahmathnisha expressed her wish to live with her husband and requested the jamaat to advice her husband to avoid his relationship with other women. But it did not happen. Rahmathnisha want to live with one husband and lived her life with lot of faith that her husband will come back to her. Discussion took place between two jamaats about the Talaq letter. During July 2003, a settlement was arrived at and he promised to pay Rs.42,000/- and want Rahmathnisha to sign a document as if she should not claim anything for her son in future as a heir for Varusaimohamed’s property. But Rahmathnisha’s family could not accept this meagre amount. Hence they did not sign the documents and received the money. In turn they send a request through Thirupathur jamaat for claiming Rs.1,00,000/- as compensation. But Rahmathnisha was very particular in living with her husband with changed attitude. Varusai Mohamed has given all the vessels and domestic household things used by Rahmathnisha along with Rs.42,000/- to Kattuthalai Jamaat and come to a conclusion that he has completed his commitment to her wife. Before the final settlement take place between two families, Varusaimohamed has married another women from the same place in May 2004. Hence Rahmathnisha approached the Kattuthalai jamaat which has given no objection certificate for his second marriage. For that the jamaat people has replied that doing Talaq is a matter of one and half paise for which why should she disturb to this extent. As she did not get a responsible answer from the jamaat, she approached STEPS for punishing his husband for doing second marriage for marrying another women before the divorce has taken place for her marriage in July 2004.

STEPS wrote letters to Kattuthalai jamaat asking him the justification for giving NOC to Varusai Mohamed and another letter to his employer. The Kattuthalai Jamaat has send a threatening reply to STEPS, as if sending a letter itself will convey Talaq irrespective for Rahmathnisha’s opinion to live with him. Hence Rahmathnisha filled a case against her husband in Karaikudi women police station. But the Inspector after consulting the lawyer said that second marriage is allowed in Islam and a muslim men will not come under the Indian law. So a compromise was suggested by the police station. Finally her husband was willing to pay Rs.85,001/- and asked her to sign a agreement that all settlement are over between both of them. Rahmathnisha was very particular in punishing her husband and want to file FIR against him. But the male members in her family did not accept this and wait for more years and continue her case in future. Hence they forced her to get the amount that is given at present.

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